My Wife and I Took a Sexy Woman Home From a Party. It Was Great—Until She Saw the Photo On Our Fridge.

How to Do It She was horrified. Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Caiaimage/Tom Merton/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, My wife and I are into the sex club scene. Recently we headed to our favorite spot for some fun and hit it off with a woman, “Sabrina,” whom we met there. Things went so well we decided to take the party back to our place since my parents had our kids for the weekend. The next morning as Sabrina was leaving, she noticed one of our family pictures on the wall and became upset. She immediately said she was sorry, but she couldn’t see us again. We were confused and asked why. Her response left my wife and me speechless. She is our younger son’s first grade teacher. But we all agreed we had the best threesome of our lives together. Should we try to convince Sabrina not to end an amazing thing? —Hot for the Teacher Dear Hot for the Teacher, Don’t do that. Firstly, this “amazing thing” is almost by definition fleeting. Great casual sex does not guarantee a long-term connection. But also, Sabrina has made clear that she has a set of standards and rules she adheres to, and knowingly having sex with the parents of the children she teaches is one of them. Whether she developed this through experience or it’s just a gut thing for her, you should respect it. Unless you are completely absent as parents, you will almost certainly interact with her in the future regarding your child’s education, and she likely wants to avoid awkwardness as much as possible. I’m assuming that Back to School Night hadn’t yet happened when you had your threeway, yet it does seem unusual that you didn’t already know, or at least hadn’t already seen your son’s first-grade teacher. It’s also a bit of an odd choice for her to have sex in a public space where she may intermingle with parents of the children she teaches, given her rules, but maybe she just gets naked with a bunch of strangers and just hopes for the best. Sometimes it’s all that we can do. As you are well aware, there is no shortage of people with whom to play. Great sex is like a great meal—even if you never can replicate it exactly, it’s worth having. You don’t eat for the sake of next time; you do it because you’re hungry and what’s in front of you is delicious. There are many, many great meals to be had. Letting people come and go respects their autonomy, their ability to consent or revoke it. You have a wife, you have a social life on your sex club scene. You’ll do fine without her. —Rich More Advice From Slate I recently lost a lot of weight. Before I did, I thought I had a smaller-than-average penis. Well, turns out it’s much larger than I thought. Now it’s starting to hurt my partners and give me trouble in bed. Are there new positions I need to try? How do I adjust to this change? Advice Sex